A few thoughts about the relationship between transaction and trust
So I read this thing the other day by a very famous guy. He was talking about how the most important things in life are “nontransactional” and on that basis, manipulative. So therefore, if it’s transactional, it’s not to be trusted.
I just don’t agree.
Everything in life, and in human relating is, ultimately, transactional. And that's a good thing; it's not manipulative at all. Every action we take on earth creates an energetic exchange. All of it, thoughts, words, deeds. Nothing can be extracted from the exchange of energy.
We rely on grace and aspiration, love and kindness. Those are transactions that take place on a plane beyond human. Transactions go far beyond what can be weighed, measured, or bargained. We give and experience the joy of giving. That's a transaction. We try to do the right thing. That's a transaction, even if the people involved haven't negotiated it. These types of transactions unfold in multiple dimensions. And it’s the quality of the transaction, the balance of the energy exchanged that builds trust.
And trust cannot, and should not, continue if you continually get hurt or screwed over. That's not about having faith. That's refusing to learn. But trust is earned through successful transactions.
Is there a time to make leaps of faith? Absolutely. But over time, and life experience, it will be the nature, quality, and experience of the transaction that ensures the sustainability of trust.
What do you think about the relationship between transactions and trust?