Good partnership "deals" help your relationship run smoothly.
And bad deals cause ruptures ... !
Understanding your relationship "deals" is essential to expert relating. Understanding the deals, aka agreements, between you and your partner will help you understand the underlying components of your relationship, and why you have ruptures. Better yet, understanding your "deals" will help you understand how to repair your relationship when a deal goes awry.
Agreements form a fundamental basis for how we relate with others, and even determine *if* we are going to relate at all. People are constantly listening to others, keying in on what they do and don't agree with. Agreements and disagreements are occurring all the time, even if it seems like you and your partner are just having a normal, everyday conversation.
Many agreements are not discussed, and those silent agreements often are at the core of the problem, when minor slip-ups turn into major ruptures.
Surface your silent and stated agreements to better understand both the good and not-so-good “deals” you have between you, so you can accurately pinpoint and resolve the real reasons you are having ruptures.
Four page pdf, includes discussion, definition of a "good deal" between partners, examples of silent and stated agreements, and a worksheet to help you craft Good Deals between you and your partner.